Mind your manners! :)

Pardon the pun in the subject line :). Some people have been asking about Malaysian customs so I thought that I’d pull that discussion to the front page to share with everyone.

I understand that for some of you, this will be your first time in Asia. South East Asia does have a reputation of being a little conservative compared to the West, but don’t let that be a turn off, and most of all, don’t be afraid of us [if only you can hear me laughing right now! MUA HA HA HA!].

Here are some cultural etiquette to keep in mind :)

• We take off our shoes when visiting people’s homes.

• Don’t point at things and people with your forefinger. Use your thumb for this purpose.

• Don’t show the soles of your feet to people.

• Micro mini skirts and plunging necklines may draw unwanted attention.

• Sleeveless shirts, crop tops, shorts and skirts [at a decent length] and fine EXCEPT when visiting a temple or a mosque. To visit a temple, you will need to cover your shoulders and have your skirt/pants to a length below your knees. Mosques rarely allow non-muslims to visit, but if you want to, there is a gorgeous one in Putrajaya (between KL and KLIA) you can see. They will provide appropriate clothing at the mosque for this purpose.

• If you are non-muslim, consumption of alcohol is fine, so don’t worry about it.

• Don’t make out in public, please.

• Please wear your undergarments. Seriously. You have no idea how many foreigners draw unwanted attention this way in KL.

• Some Malaysians may not want to shake your hand. Please don’t panic and please don’t get offended. This is an old taboo that does not deem it polite for men and women to touch. If this happens to you, smile, put your right hand over your left chest and say “nice to meet you,” with a slight bow. He/she will repeat the same gesture which symbolises that your hearts are open to friendship and is as good as a hello handshake.

• We don’t have a tipping culture in Malaysia and do not get offended if you don’t tip. But if you do wish to give, it is always appreciated.

• We eat rice with spoons. You are forgiven if you are a foreigner.

• We also eat with our fingers. This is not impolite. If you are going to join us, please notice that we use our right hand to eat. Never the left hand.

• Instead of “How are you?”, some people will ask you, “Have you eaten?”. Many Malaysians gauge how you are by when you last eaten. This is normal. Some Malaysians will also try to feed you. When eating with Malaysians, some will just keep piling food on your plate even before you finish. This is also normal, especially if you have impressed a new friend for whatever reason. Politely tell your friend that you have had enough. He will first appear offended, but if you oblige, he will just keep feeding you. He will get over it. Trust me.

• Taboo subjects to take to a Malaysian [unless you are really good buddies]: Religion, politics, bad food.

• Swimsuits and bikinis are generally fine at the islands but anything less than that would draw unwanted attention. I don’t think you should walk in the towns and cities in swimsuits though. Get a nice wrap sarong or a pareo :)

In the cities, language will be no problem at all since everyone speaks English. Malaysians generally have a great sense of humour so you will receive lots of laughs and lots of smiles. You may want to be cautious of Malaysians that come across as overly friendly, though. Foreigners, especially Westerners do stand out of the crowd here so people will be looking at you. Be cool. Practice general safety precautions. Smile.